A LIFE that matters

Ready or not, some day it will come to an end. There will be no more sunrises, no minutes, hours or days. All the things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten will be passed to someone else.

Your wealth, fame and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance. Your grudges, resentments, frustrations and jealousies will finally disappear .So, too, your hopes, ambitions, plans, to-do-list will expire. The wins and losses that once seemed so important will fade away. It won't matter where you came from, or on what side of the tracks you live at the end.

It won't matter whether you were beautiful or brilliant. Even your gender and skin color will be irrelevant. So what will matter? How will the value of your days be measured? What will matter is not what you bought, BUT HOW YOU BUILT. Not what you got, But WHAT YOU GAVE.

What will matter is not your success, but YOUR SIGNIFICANCE. What will matter is not what you learned, but what YOU TAUGHT. What will matter is every act of integrity, compassion, courage, orr sacrifice that will enrich, empower, or encourage others to emulate your example.

What will matter is not your competence, but YOUR CHARACTER. What will matter is not how many people you knew. But how many will feel a LASTING LOSS WHEN YOU'RE GONE. What will matter is HOW LONG YOU WILL BE REMEMBERED,

BY WHOM AND FOR WHAT.

Living a life that matters doesn't happen by accident. It's not a matter of circumstance but of CHOICE. Choose to live a life that matters.

Only once in your Life, you find Someone who can..

Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colors seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.

- Bob Marley

How to love a woman

 

“You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She’s not perfect - you aren’t either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break - her heart. So don’t hurt her, don’t change her, don’t analyze and don’t expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she’s not there.”

Being alone..

Do you ever get that feeling where you don’t want to talk to anybody? You don’t want to smile and you don’t want to fake being happy. But at the same time you don’t know exactly what’s wrong either. There isn’t a way to explain it to someone who doesn’t already understand. If you could want anything in the world it would be to be alone. People have stopped being comforting and being alone never was. At least when you’re alone no one will constantly ask you what is wrong and there isn’t anyone who won’t take ‘I don’t know’ for an answer. You feel the way you do just because. You hope the feeling will pass soon and that you will be able to be yourself again, but until then all you can do is wait.

Feelings and Emotions CHANGE

FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS CHANGE, it doesn't mean that if you don't feel something for each other anymore

THE LOVE IS GONE.

If love were only feelings then there is no such thing as everlasting.

Love can sometimes turn NUMB or even BORING you just have to be patient cause LOVE ITSELF IS LIFE.

Not all the times you are in are for all HAPPINESS.

Sometimes you also have to GIVE IN TO ITS BITTERNESS.

BUT

No matter what, as long as YOU CHOOSE AND DECIDE TO CONTINUE..

IT'LL BE MORE BEAUTIFUL..

Discovering REAL LOVE

There are many parts to our lives, such as getting an education, health, friends, and family. Among the most important are our relationships with peers and the opposite sex. And above all, to love and be loved in close relationships is the most important because that can impact all other parts of our life. But what is real love?

First, whatever the relationship is, it needs to be nurtured. Rarely does it just hapent and stay that way. And one of the best ways to nurture love is through communication. Talking to your partner, your friends, and your colleagues helps you to understand and appreciate them. Beyond that, I've discovered ten principles of love that will help you not only to fall in love but stay that way. :)

1. Love does NOT hurt.

Physical or emotional abuse in any form is contrary to love. People who hurt you either physically or emotionally don't love you. They should care for you, not abuse you. 

2. Love is NOT manipulative.

Love shouldn't be used to get others to do what you want. You should never give in to demands based on you-would-do-it-if-you-love-me tactic. The person who loves you should never try to force you to do something you don't want to do. Love is not a reason to get your own way. 

3. Love is an intense feeling of caring for another person.

Love can take many different forms: plantonic, romantic, friendly, familial, but it is always about caring. Although it is true that a big part of love is putting another person's happiness ahead of your own, this never includes compromising your values or being untrue to yourself. 

4. You will want the person you love to be happy.

It's easy to put your own happiness first in life. But something very significant happens when you put someone else's happiness above your own: their happiness reflects back on you, and you're happy too!

5. LUST and LOVE are easily confused.

The true measure of romantic love is commitment and trust, not physical attraction. Love is much deeper than mere sexual attraction; there has to be a measure of trust and commitment that underpins it. This in itself often rules out the lust aspect of a relationship. Don't base your feelings on the physical aspects of love alone.

6. It is possible to feel romantic love for more than one person at any given time.

If it is possible for you to love both of your parents at the same time, why would it be impossible to feel romatic love for two people at once? Don't beat yourself up emotionally if you find yourself in this situation. Consider the romantic feelings you have for both of these other persons to be just that:FEELINGS. If you are single, you will have to choose one person or the other, but for now, just enjoy both friendships.

7. SEX IS NOT LOVE, AND LOVE IS NOT SEX.

Sex can be a part of romantic love, but it's never mandatory. Often people feel that sex is the only way to show love, ut then it isn't really love that they are experiencing. 

8. Romantic love will fade.

When romantic love diminishes, there is not alwas a clear reason. But if you are married, the fading of romantic feelings does not mean the end of your loving relationship. Love is more than romance. Married love is a lifetime commitment.

9. Love should make you feel HAPPY.

No one wants to stay in a relationship where they are unhappy. You want to feel safe, secure, valued, and appreciated, and that should make you happy.

10. Genuine love is built on friendship.

Most successful love relationships began as friendships, which is probably the reason for their success. The better you know the other person., the better you'll get along with him or her, and the more likely it is that the relationship will last. In a true love relationship, your appreciation of your partner as a friend will mean more than anything else. Friendships aren't built on a purely sexual relationship. So first build friendships, and then look for love in a partner.

Let these ten principles of true love guide you, and you will almost certainly succeed in finding, "just the right one " for you!

Credits to: Signs of the Times

Road to Success!

The road to success is not STRAIGHT.

There is a curve called failure,

A loop called confusion,

Speed bumps called friends,

Red lights called enemies,

Caution lights called family.

There are also flat tires called jobs.

But

If we have a spare tire called determination,

Engine called perseverance,

Insurance called faith,

a driver named JESUS,

we will make it to a place called "SUCCESS"

HAVE FAITH!

HE's watching over US!

HE's our LIGHT!

HE's our EVERYTHING!

"THE RAIN" (A story of true love)

It was a busy morning, about 8:30, when an elderly gentleman in his 80's arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb. He said he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:00 am.

I took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing would be over an hour before someone would to able to see him. I saw him looking at his watch and decided, since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound. On exam, it was well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound.

While taking care of his wound, I asked him if he had another doctor's appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry.

The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife. I inquired as to her health.

He told me that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer's Disease.

As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late.

He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now.

I was surprised, and asked him, 'And you still go every morning, even though she doesn't know who you are?'

He smiled as he patted my hand and said,

She doesn't know me, but I still know "Who She Is".

I had to hold back tears as he left, I had goose bumps on my arm, and thought,

'That is the kind of love I want in my life.'

True love is neither physical, nor romantic.

"True Love is an Acceptance of all that is, Has been, Will be, and Will Not Be."

With all the jokes and fun that are in e-mails, sometimes there is one that comes along that has an important message. This one I thought I could share with you.

The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything;

they just make the best of everything they have.

''Life isn't About How to Survive the Storm, But How to Dance in the Rain.''